Living without judgement

One thing we all have in common,

(regardless of our beliefs, skin color, location and economy)

is that we are all going to die.

We live knowing this;

so my hub is directed at how much this understanding

of our finite self

influences how we live our lives.

We find ourselves conscious of our existence

as we know it.

We become a slave

to all we have been told by parents

And their set of standards and values.

Also by the culture and society we grew up in,

and by our own choices

and internal dialogue.

We are also governed by our set of beliefs

which may be religious choices we made,

or some thrust upon us from birth.

These often bring comfort, but can also keep us stuck.

Even our rebellion enslaves us.

We are a mass of preconceived ideas, standards and values

learned as a child, so we can be accepted and loved

by those we need the most.

However, in seeking love and affirmation

outside of ourselves;

We lose contact with our true, authentic self

and the richness of experiencing life's wonder.

This mass of conditioning

(in order to be acceptable)

Becomes our ego

It defines us

And gives structure.

But it also cripples us

And keep us trapped.

We are the both the prisoner

And the jailer.

Sometimes, when some cruelty or tragedy befalls us

We struggle to find meaning.

To understand why we are here, alive and conscious.

Why do we suffer?

Why does life seem unfair and unjust?

We feel these things

because we have identified with our beliefs, standards and values

We have labeled ourselves, others; life's ebb and flow...everything!

The truth is that life is a fluid experience.

As life progresses and we reach a certain age

We become bogged down

with the need to make a living

To raise children

To follow the socially accepted norms.

Occasionally we may question if we are happy

But on the whole most people try to stay busy.

We define ourselves, and our sense of security

By how successful we are...

By our possessions,

circle of friends,

popularity,

intelligence,

skills and talents.

Or we may by depressed and unmotivated;

full of self-loathing and hate.

This is our ego identity.

We don't always stop and think

about who we really are

why we are here...

and what life is...

Until these values and faulty beliefs are removed

either by death, illness,

loss, or devastation

outside our control.

What is life?

It certainly isn't something we asked for

(not that we can remember).

Therefore, let's imagine that life is a gift, on loan...

Let's also imagine that life

is the greatest gift

That can be bestowed on anything...

Regardless of the circumstances

of birth or design.

A gift given freely and with the bonus of

conscious choice...

it's up to us how we perceive it.

The gift is where we came from

but its not ours to own...

It has the designers imprint

determining when we return it; (death).

Most of us try to control life

In order to feel safe:

But life cannot be controlled.

It doesn't answer to our insecurities

Or our ignorant needs.

In accepting life exactly as it is;

A gift we have for a short time

You set yourself free

To be all you can be.

In turn you enrich life with your uniqueness

Regardless of how long you lived

Or how much you achieved.

So we find ourselves in the middle of a life

Which we have been given.

With all the paraphernalia (or lack)

of worldly security:

We may own homes, cars, businesses,

work jobs, have friends, go to Church,

little league and clubs..

we keep busy, busy, busy.

Rushing around within the concepts

Of how we designed life

(from everything we experienced).

Or we may have nothing

and feel hunger, cold, heat and sickness from birth.

What is life's purpose?

What if the experience, (regardless of birth or design)

Is purpose enough?

What if we didn't have preconceived ideas, standards and values

about how life should be?

What if we didn't have a need

to find affirmation outside of ourselves?

What if we just quietly (for at least a moment or two)

stepped outside of all our conditioning

and stepped into the void?

The void (unconditional love) wherein life exists

without judgments and descriptions

and just is.

The void we go back to

when we die.

The void

(that is everything and nothing)

that doesn't see poverty or riches.

Just the heart and soul

of each unique being

contributing to the expansion

of all that is.

Just for today,

I am going to experience my day

without judgment of myself

or others.

I'm going to experience life

on life's terms,

not my own.

Try it!

Its amazing how difficult it is

Not to judge every experience!

We are a mass of programming;

our egos strongly defend

our need to define:

To be right,

to have everything slotted, boxed;

categorized into our tiny database:

Of what we think is right and wrong;

good or bad.

We are constantly berating ourselves

gauging our performances.

Coming up as winner or loser...

Always seeking to find unconditional love

through external affirmation.

Rather than the quiet knowing

that unconditional love

peace and joy

resides in all of us:

Waiting to be experienced...

regardless of our circumstances.

To begin experiencing a peaceful fearless life

You need to let go

and unlearn the programming.

and trust your gut.

Our birthright is unconditional love of self

But we get lost in our egos.

We get lost in the worldly illusions of power,

need and insecurity.

It's such a freeing experience

to recognize this is illusion.

it's great to not always have to be right;

to not always understand.

To just observe and not react.

In this state,

if we ponder life and death,

it becomes a non-judgment:

There is no fear

it just is.

Whilst we are all going to die,

We worry about

the way we will die.

We worry about

the loved ones left behind.

We worry about pain

the loss of control

and ultimately

the loss of self...

But if we begin to experience our life

In a non-judgment, transcendent way,

We can truly live each moment.

knowing that nothing ever dies.

Pain and struggles

can be observed and transcended.

It's impossible not to have existed:

Your imprint is indelibly etched

Into the miracle of existence!

So in knowing and contemplating

this larger picture

Without need of definition...

We are free to just be

To look around

and wonder at nature

To truly experience

and to revel

(despite our situations)

In the awe of that which exists

outside of our ego:

Life in all its glory

is all around you

It is living through you

It has its own rhythm

and meaning.

In stepping into the void,

you step into the truth

of life's unconditional love

for you

and for all that is.

Just for today,

try not letting your preconceived ideas,

standards, values and judgments

live your life for you

in a quiet time,

contemplate the joy and peace

of 'just being'

You will find that

the fear of death...

and living a life for external affirmation

loses its grip.

You will begin to remember

to experience

the true meaning of life;

joy, peace, bliss, harmony, union.

Have a wonder~ful life!

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